How can we understand if we are in an abusive relationship?

How can we understand if we are in an abusive relationship? By what signs can we recognize these relationships? In the lines below, we will help you find answers to your questions!

What do abusive and disrespectful relationships mean?

In the future, we will refer to abusive and disrespectful relationships as Toxic Relationships!

Toxic relationship ~ this means that you are currently in a relationship that lacks respect, harmony, and patience.

In such relationships, a tense, negativity-laden atmosphere dominates, driven by conflicts and driven by misunderstandings between people.

How do these toxic relationships manifest themselves?

This kind of relationship can arise everywhere around you, in whatever environment you are, namely:

• In a work team (in the office, or at work)
• In the home circle
• At a university, academy, or school.
• In the circle of your friends and colleagues
• Relationships in a couple
• In the family.
  

Toxic relationships are so common among us that they are often perceived as relationships of the norm of communication, all these representations are based on the experience of our interactions with

people in the past (family, school, university, partnerships, etc.)

So how do we sort out and understand the difference between a toxic relationship and severely abusive treatment with or without physical violence?

Relationships can be considered toxic if, a behavioral pattern or relationship of one of the involved or several persons of the group members. This is a relationship characterized by a constant feeling of discomfort, and anxiety, burdened by a sense of fear or sadness. In this kind of relationship, you will not find mutual respect, interest in each other, frankness, and compassion. Moreover, you can easily become a victim of deceit, mistrust, or jealousy.

Ill-treatment, abusive relationships with or without elements of violence - this is the interaction of partners, where one of them has unlimited control over the victim, consistently limiting the actions of the other partner. That is, this partner knows perfectly well when and how, with the help (psychological impact or moral pressure or the use of physical force), to injure his partner in order to achieve certain goals, and often resorts to this technique.

These actions can be repeated at different intervals, daily or monthly.

What are the first steps you should take if you are in a toxic relationship?

~ You need to ask yourself the question: “What will I get from this relationship?”; Will it bring me happiness or not? ;

What am I ready to sacrifice for my partner, if I know for sure that he is not ready to change his behavior toward me?

~Therefore, with this appeal to Us, armed with courage and confidence in our joint actions, we will analyze the situation of your relationship, which you consider toxic. We will have a joint opportunity to consider alternative relationships

at this stage, possibly taking into account the experience of past relationships. And also think about what we can improve or perhaps what we could change in them so that we are happy and peaceful! And then allow ourselves to think about the current relationship, let's see if we can put the changes into practice!

~It is necessary to consider the possibility that we in turn also contribute to the toxicity of the relationship, therefore it is necessary to honestly ask ourselves some questions:

• What is my role in this relationship?
• How do I express myself in these relationships?
• How do I communicate with my partner?
• How do I behave with my boyfriend?
• Do I need to change something in my behavior? If so, what exactly?

Depending on the answers received, then we will be able to discuss the current situation with our partner, what to find out, and his point of view on this issue. We are confident that a toxic relationship can change and become a perfectly adequate and healthy relationship, provided that both partners make a joint effort to improve mutual understanding between themselves!

In order to end a toxic relationship between people, a decision made by one of the partners is enough!

After deciding to end the relationship, you need to seek help from the following people, namely:

• Relatives, family members
• Friends
• Psychologist